Day 14 With Aloizs

Well I hate to repeat myself but today was another wonderful day with a beautiful child.  We went to church this morning and I was so proud of him and how he went to people and hugged them.  When we sat down I told him he was doing such a great job at greeting people and I was so proud of him.  We had a testimony service and Pastor Stan told me I could get up and share about Aloizs if I would like and I sat there and pondered the idea, but every time I thought of what I would share tears would fill my eyes, and I would get a big lump in my throat so I decided not to share this morning not because God doesn't deserve all the Glory for what He is doing, but I was just not ready, and I would of just cried.  I want a rain check on that and one day would like to do that, but not yet.  We went and eat Mexican and he wanted 2 chicken tacos and french fries, well when I ordered the waiter looked at me funny, and repeated it to me 2 or 3 times.  All I know is that is what he wanted and they just need to make that a new combo.  So he enjoyed his Chicken tacos and french fries. We went to Cosco afterward to pick up some more food...4 children we go a lot:)  and when we walked in his eyes got big and he said "wow, Big", it was his first trip to Cosco.  He had fun walking around and pushing the buggy, which is his job now every time we go to a store.  When we left he pushed the buggy real fast and jumps on it and rides it all the way to the car.  He is always fun!
When we got home Aloizs went and played drums, Morgan took a nap, Mallory laid on the couch, and Matthew was on the computer and the phone.  It was great to hear Matthew trying to talk on the phone with the drums in the background.  I told him welcome to my world:) But something happened during that time that blesses my heart to no ends,  I was trying to tell Matthew something from the family room, Matthew was in our school room and Aloizs was on the other side in our unfinished room playing drums, and I holler for Matthew and he doesn't answer, and then Aloizs stops playing drums and says "Matthew, mom wants you"  I am so glad Aloizs was not in the room with me because I would not of been able to control my face.  It blessed me so much!  We were told to introduce ourselves with our first names, and not to tell them to call us mom and dad, but if they call us that then we let them.  So happy that he feels close enough to me to call me that, instead of Melanie.   Aloizs and I then sat on the couch and looked at more videos of Gimbarr or turnikman-which is some kind of street workout that is real big over in Europe.  we sat there and we watched video after video on my laptop.  He wanted to know if we have anything like this here.  I told him we would go try and find a gymnastic bar tomorrow. maybe at a school playground.  If anyone knows of one please help me out.  He says He loves this sport.  He also would like to go to a gymnastics place and have a lesson or get to use their bar.  If anyone has any connections with that please help me give him his wish in the next couple weeks.  He is so excited about trying to get to go. 
So today was the day I felt was the right time to show my Jesus life story movie, in Latvian, that I found before he came and have been waiting for the right time.  today marks 2 weeks so I felt he now knows us and we have his trust.  We set up the projector and my laptop and showed it on the wall.  When I told him it was in Latvian he was so excited.  He was sitting in front of me and would turn around and smile at me every few minutes.  When it got to the part that Jesus raises the little girl from the dead, he turned around and looked at me and said "Jesus" I couldn't tell if that was a question or he was telling me so I just said yes.  He was glued to the movie.  When they brought out the nails he said out loud "uh oh"  He was so into the whole movie.  It was priceless!  I am so thankful for this website that has this movie in every language what a ministry!  When it was over he said "That Good" I asked him had he ever seen that and he said no.  I know he said he had heard of Jesus, but I don't think he knew all of that.  I told him that all of that was true from the Bible, and he shook his head yes.  I pray that what was planted tonight will grow, and he will know Jesus as Lord.  It was so precious.  He then of course wanted to play UNO, which is our nightly tradition.  We have so much fun with it though, he is just as competitive as we are.  I think we have played more UNO in the last 2 weeks than we have played total in all the years my children have been playing.:)
We went to put the kids to bed and Tony and I went in to pray with Aloizs and Matthew, and when we were done, Tony went out and Morgan came in to get Bailey.  Well Aloizs was picking on her and told her "No, his dog", 'Bailey stay"  and he was holding him tight and she couldn't get him.  I was holding my Mia and some plastic to put in the trash.  Morgan said mom help me, so I put my Mia down and the trash and said well we will just have to double team him and I turned around to walk towards him and the look of horror was on that childs face like I have never seen on anyone.  He didn't understand what I said, and he didn't see my face he just saw that I put my stuff down and he thought he was in trouble.  It broke my heart, but I held it together, and told Morgan to get one arm and we tried to pull his arms apart and then we started tickling him and finally got Bailey free.  I then hugged him good night and told him that I love him.  Morgan saw it and even noticed it and made a comment about it when we got to her room.  When I got to my room I lost it and cried so hard, the thoughts of the reason that that child would have a look like that, rips my heart out.  I have never seen such fear on a face in all of my life, I am not sure what has happened in his past to make him look like that, but it couldn't of been good.   That face is forever in bedded in my mind.  Please pray for our precious Aloizs

Day 13 With Aloiz

Well after a very long cry last night, I wake up this morning asking God for His strengthen and direction.  I ask God to carry me, and help me know what to say and when.  Well at breakfast it ended up being just me and Aloiz, when we started eating I felt like my heart was going to beat out of my chest.  Kinda like when you are going to share the Gospel, You feel it is the right moment but you don't want to mess it up, cause you may only have that one chance at that open door.  Except with this conversation I have to type everything and depend on Google translate to say what I mean, which it doesn't always do.  I was so scared to say the wrong thing, so I thought ok here it goes God, I got my laptop and started talking with him...I started with pictures of Riga, Latvia that had been posted. We talked about them for awhile.  Then I asked him if He would ever like to live in America? and he smiled real big and said yes.  So I told him I had heard that he was asked to be adopted before and he  said no, could he tell me why?  and he said that the lady laughed at him.  I asked why she would laugh at him? and he said she would make him say words in English and then laugh at him.  It made me so mad, but I held it in and said I was sorry she had treated him that way.  People absolutely kill me!  But I want go off on that right now.  We went on in talking and he also said they were boring, so I asked him if he thought we were boring and he smiled at me and said NO, I thought good cause that would of been a first. lol  I went in to share a little about my childhood and a little about my dad.  I let him know I did not grow up in a family like this, but I prayed for a family and God give me one.  I wanted him to know that he doesn't have to hide his life or what he has been through from us.  (I didn't say that but that is the reason for my sharing)  That he doesn't have to be perfect for us.  God has always laid it on my heart to us my childhood to help other children and so that is what I tried to do.  It wasn't long, I wish our time hadn't been cut short, but the family came walking in, so I finished there.  I really feel it was a special moment of sharing.  I think both of us feel a little better.  I pray for more of those special moments with Aloizs.  He is so special to us.  Thank you for all of your prayers we need them!  I'll share more of what is going on in our family conversations and more of the reason for my melt down in tears when the time comes.  I love you all thank you so much for sharing in this time of our life with us.  It means so much to me when I talk to some of you and you tell me you read this blog.  Good night I rest a little easier tonight 

Day 12 With Aloiz

Today was really just a quit kind of day.  We hung out around the house this morning, Matthew spent some time with him showing him the drums and letting him play for a little awhile.  I think he really enjoyed that.  This afternoon we went out and did some more shopping and he got a hat and some shoe strings.  I think he really likes to walk around and shop.  We then went to Adventure Landing and played in the arcade for awhile, which was fun, and then ate at Taco Bell.  I am just going to be real honest here and tell you guys my heart...I DO NOT want to see this child leave!  I wish there was something I could do about that and he just stay!  I couldn't love a child anymore than I love this one!  He is such a joy and is absolutely precious.  I ask today that you would start praying for me, cause when this child leaves in 2 weeks I don't think I am going to be in very good shape:(  Not really able to write a lot tonight for thinking about it already.  Sorry guys, maybe tomorrow I will be in better shape.  

Day 11 With Aloizs

Today was a lot of fun, we started our day being around the house, Tony trimmed some trees and Aloizs and I went for  a bike ride.  It was really nice out side and it give Tony time to get some work done and my kids some time to take showers and get ready. 

Aloizs had been showing me some youtube videos about parkour. So it looked like airbound to me without the trampolines, so I showed him videos of Airbound and he was so excited he asked if we could go, so we took him there this afternoon and they had a great time.  He is 6'2" and you should of seen him flipping in the air!  Aloizs, Matthew, and Morgan had a blast there!  Tony, Mallory and myself enjoyed taking video/pics and watching.  every time he would do something he would turn around to make sure we were watching.  He absolutely loved that place.  We can home and I made spaghetti which he loved!  and puts ranch on it like Mallory:)  We then played a game of charades, teams were Tony/Morgan, Me/Aloizs, and Mallory/Matthew (we love being even) It was so fun, he loved it, of course he and I had to use the translator to guess but we held our own and came in second.  We ended our night with popcorn and a superman movie, thats just America:)  He really enjoyed the movie, I don't think he had ever seen or heard of Superman, just Batman.  So that was day 11, another special day with an incredible boy.

   I wanted to share some insight into my comments in the past on his great progress of doing the little things that are really a big deal.  I got to thinking and thought there may be  a lot of you that might not understand when I say things about him hugging or touching or eye contact.   In our training we were told that they may not hug, or could shy away from a small touch.  On our training day one exercise was to hug a complete stranger that doesn't hug back, it was very uncomfortable.  I mean a 2 arm full hug like you would give a very close relative.  We did this training because they wanted us to hug our host child like they were a close relative even when they did not hug us back.  They wanted them to fill loved and learn to hug.  They also told us a lot of the time they do not make eye contact because they are not custom to being comfortable to do that.  Many are treated as unwanted or unloved outcast.   There country treats orphans a lot different than they  are treated here in America.  So for him to be connected with us and at the comfortable level that he is at is such a special thing.  It makes me so happy to see him responding to the fact that he is loved.  There are about 220 children from different Orphanages in Latvia and Ukraine, and all of the host families are in a Facebook group.  Today I was reading a post from one of the host families and it said that their host child started crying and they ask her what was wrong and she said she was not use to having so much, that what she has been given since she has been here is more than she has had here entire life, she said she has never felted  loved before and it makes her eyes leak.  It breaks my heart to think that children hurt that bad, and need love that much.  I am so thankful for what God is doing in these children's lives.  He loves the children so much and hears their prayers.   

Matthew 19:13

1. [ Jesus Blesses Little Children ] Then little children were brought to Him that He might put His hands on them and pray, but the disciples rebuked them.
   
2. Matthew 19:14
3. But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven.”

Please pray for Aloizs today that what ever he has been through that he might learn that Jesus loves him and wants to mend that hurt and replace it with love.  We don't know how he ended up at the Orphanage or anything about his parents or even how long he has been there, but I know Jesus knows and can take care of it all.  We are so blessed, and we don't even realize it, thankful for this eye opening that God is doing our life.  So glad to be in His Will, being His hands and Feet, I feel so unworthy to do so.  This is definitely a humbling experience.  But isn't that the way it is that the closer we get to God the more we see our incompleteness without HIM.

Day 10 With Aloiz

For Christmas from Tony's Mom and Dad gave Aloiz and my children all got money in a card, so they all wanted to go shopping today:/  The mall was crazy busy!  But Aloiz didn't know what a mall was, and I am sorry, I couldn't handle that!  Everyone needs to of been shopping at the mall:)  So we endured the crowd for the sake of education. lol.  It was a lot of fun though, he picked out a pair of "RED" shoes, I repeat "RED" shoes, please if you see us out, beware!  What do you say, I said are you sure?  You want to look at other stores?  He said "No These"  so he buys RED vans and he is happy.  I will have to save our lesson in fashion for another day, I told myself baby steps.:)
After a long time walking around the mall we decided to go eat, I asked him if he had ever had Japanese?  and he said No, I ask him if he would like to try it, and I got a Yes, I was so excited.  I love Mexican and Japanese food, and we already cleared the Mexican food.  I ordered for him, Hibachi chicken and mixed veggies, and he loved it!!  YaY!  I think it is so awesome that he was willing to try something he had never had before.  I even got him some chop sticks and he and I  ate a bit with those. so very cool!
We got Aloiz a stuffed animal with an audio devise in it that tell the story of Jesus in Latvian and Russian, and it is solar powered and will never need batteries. It is absolutely the coolest ministry tool I have ever seen.  Well last night Matthew stayed up late with Andrew on the computer, and he said when he went to bed Aloiz was already asleep and was holding it and had fell asleep while it was playing.  so he reached over and turned it off for him.  Love that so much!  Tonight when I was walking out of his room I heard it playing.  So precious that he is listening to this amazing tool of the Gospel.  
Every night I hug him goodnight and tell him I love him and tonight for the first time he said it back real softly.  Totally has made my night!  

Day 9 Christmas day with Aloiz

Christmas Day
What an exciting time with family.  Aloiz as well as the others were all smiles as they entered the room with presents wrapped under the lit tree.  They came down about 7am ready for the presents.  Aloiz was so happy to see all of his gifts all stacked together.  He started opening one by one and was very appreciative for each one.  We got him a pair of brown shoes and he kept picking them up and telling me he liked them, with a big smile.  Mallory got her Justin Beiber tickets and started crying, we had to use the translator real quick with that, cause I know he didn't understand why we give her something that made her cry like that:)  It was so fun to watch those 4 children having such a happy time under the tree.  They each were so thankful and loved everything they got.  We then had breakfast, eggs and sausage.  afterwards we opened packages and putting in batteries and more fun began.  Christmas dinner was so good Margaret and I team up pretty good:)  After lunch we went bike riding and enjoyed being outside for a while.  Then came the Christmas photos thats always a challenge, there isn't much that is funnier than Tony setting the timer on the camera and it starts blinking and Aloiz yelling "GO!, GO!" and Tony running to get in the picture.  It is a wonder we every got a good picture.  Morgan and Aloiz came in and played the Anger birds board game and had lots of fun while I cleaned and Matthew got to spend some time with his new Turtle Beaches.   As the night came we thought we were settling down to do Wii sports when I get a phone call from Chrisana and Otis that they are on their way to see us.  with Jasmine and Byron.  I told Aloiz that they were coming, and he seemed okay.  When they got there he went right up to them and greeted them.  It was so cool to have them come by, Aloiz really enjoyed them.  They beatboxed and freestyled for Aloiz cause I told them he likes that.  Aloiz may not of understood every word but he was rolling!  As well as all of us in the room.  Those two are just so funny together. Of course I know Matthew was loving it, brings back great memories for him.  Otis then said lets play a family game, "Mom, whats one of those old games we use to play, how about the HA Game"  so we then broke out in one of our old games of "HA".  So I translated how to play and Aloiz loved it, he participated and it was so funny!  When they had to leave Aloiz went up to each one of them and hugged them bye.  It was really precious, I was so proud of him.  And it was so special to have those guys come by and see me on Christmas!  It was just a very special time with some awesome kids!  Aloiz then wanted to play a game of UNO, even though he was tired and it was late...I think thats how after having been with other people that he brings it back to just us again.  Cause every time with have been with others either at home or out he wants to end our night with UNO, even though I know he is so tired.  We ended up staying up until 12:00 playing UNO!  It really was a great Christmas day!! I am very thankful to God for bringing all of these kiddos together to make a such a wonderful family.  
Here are Some special moments with Aloiz
I was raised that you did not go into someones refrigerator, that was a big rule in my house except for family.  I have noticed that Aloiz now will open the refrigerator and fix himself something to drink, I love it...to me it shows feeling apart of this family.  I also look at laying on the couch as a family thing, Christmas I noticed when Morgan and I started building Legos on the floor he laid over on the couch and watched men's olympics on youtube on my phone, he had never seen the Olympics before. A little story goes with that,  the other day He wanted to show me street workouts in Latvia, so he got my phone and was showing me videos of these guys that spin on these bars in the city, it was quite amazing, I told him they look like the men in the Olympics.  Christmas he asked me about the Olympics, so I showed him the men's Gymnastics from 2012, and he said he had never seen that.  He laid there mesmerized by it.  He loves that sort of stuff.  But back to my list of special moments of noticing him being comfortable with the family, I have one more...touching, in a family you sit closer on the couch, you lean on each other to look at stuff, you  don't mind if your hands touch when handing a phone back,  Well all of that may sound dumb but it is things that we don't realize we do with our family because we are comfortable with them, and it is great to see Aloiz doing these small things and being comfortable with them.  Love how he will be on the couch and lean over on me or Tony to look at something we are doing, or one night picking on Matthew we took his phone at the table, and Aloiz and I were passing the phone back and forth under the table.  or how he will tap on Tony's shoulder and act like it wasn't him.  Loving this second week where the walls come down and the comfort level goes up.  

Day 8 with Aloiz

Christmas Eve with our host son Aloiz!  What an awesome day, Aloiz, Morgan and I got and went grocery shopping, I hate to admit this but with everything going on I had not bought Christmas Dinner or baked and cookies.  So we went shopping, he loves to push the buggy and when you check out he loves to take all of the groceries out of the cart.  He loves to help!  We get home and it is raining, so I called Matthew to come help with the groceries and he said he just got out of the shower, he would get dressed and be out.  Well we come in with a few bags and Aloiz heads back out to get more bags, when he comes back in I said Matthew is coming to help with the bags and I turned around and he was gone back out the door, I looked out our glass front doors and he was running up the walkway, in a few minutes he came flying back in the kitchen with all of the bags and said thats all with a big smile on his face!  He was hurrying to bring in all of the groceries.

When then made rice krispy treats adn cookies.  All of the kids had a great time with the cookies!  What a mess-4 kids decorating cookies! We then went to the school room and painted a ceramic nativity set. It was then time for supper and Tony to come home, after we ate (and boy did Aloiz eat!)  Tony read the Christmas story and we opened one present like we always do, he was very excited!  We then put them to bed and we started wrapping, and wrapping and wrapping.  It was fun preparing Christmas for 4 children.  We finally call it a night about 1:30 (thats why I didn't blog)  It was a wonderful Christmas day!